Lesson 4.14

Open-Ended Questions, Affirmations, and Summaries

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The Motivational Interviewing (MI) technique is composed of several unique skills and qualities which foster mutual understanding, trust, and respect. During this lesson, ponder the following questions:

  • When was last time you used an open-ended question?
  • Do you make efforts to affirm what others express during conversations?
  • How often do you summarize key points made by other speakers?

This lesson will give you a deeper understanding of communication skills and techniques that are of utmost importance, especially while engaging in MI. These qualities can be remembered with the acronym OARS: open-ended questions, affirmations, reflections, and summaries. You will come to understand how each component contributes to the communication process, and also how components complement one another for effective MI.

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Imagine that you are facing these rapids. How important is it to have an oar to guide you through them? What would it be like if you tried to get through these rapids without an oar?

This is very similar to helping individuals work through resistance and gain motivation to change. The OARS method of Motivational Interviewing makes the process possible. It is also important to note that each of these skills should be used in conjunction with one another.


Open-Ended Questions

From the following list, choose and complete one or more activities that best apply to your situation.

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Activity 1

Read 1 Nephi 11:2–3, 9–11 (stop at “thereof”). Then discuss the following questions:

  • What happened in this interaction?
  • What resulted from open-ended questions in this conversation?
  • What positive experiences have you had when using open-ended questions?

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Activity 2

Read the following quote:

“Open-ended questions facilitate a client's response to questions from his or her own perspective and from the area(s) that are deemed important or relevant. This provides the opportunity for clients to express their point of view, and for counselors to discover and follow the client's perspective. This is in contrast to closed questions that are leading; they target specific information and give the client very little room to move. Example open question: 'What makes you think you should make a change?' (Following). Example closed question: 'Don't you think you drink too much?' (Leading). Another distinction between open and closed questions is that open questions elicit fuller responses where closed questions can often be given a yes or no response” (Kathleen Sciacca, “Motivational Interviewing—MI, Glossary & Fact Sheet” [2009], 4).

Discuss the following questions:

  • How can open-ended questions help facilitate a good understanding of what an associate may be thinking or feeling?
  • How can open-ended questions help create a non-judgmental environment for associates to later explore their problem areas?

Share examples of open-ended questions you and others can use as you work with associates.

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Activity 3

Rewrite each of the following closed questions as open-ended questions. Try to determine two open-ended questions for each.

  • Did you have a good day at work today?
  • Are you feeling OK today?
  • Did you complete your action steps?
  • How many times have you missed work in the last week?
  • Have you started your English classes yet?

Think of two closed-ended questions you have used recently and convert them into open-ended questions.

Affirmations

From the following list, choose and complete one or more activities that best apply to your situation.

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Activity 1

Read the following quote:

“Affirming means to actively listen for the client's strengths, values, aspirations and positive qualities and to reflect those to the client in an affirming manner. Example: client discusses many previous efforts to change a particular behavior from the position of feeling like a failure or hopelessness. Counselor reframes (from a negative to positive perspective) and affirms. 'What I am hearing is that it is very important to you to change this behavior. You have made numerous efforts over a long period of time. It seems that you have not found the way that works for you.' This reframe accomplishes both affirming the client for his or her efforts and perseverance and provides a framework for the client and counselor that entails finding a solution that will work for the client. This is in keeping with collaborative change plans that are used in motivational interviewing” (Kathleen Sciacca, “Motivational Interviewing—MI, Glossary & Fact Sheet,” 4; italics in original).

Discuss the following questions:

  • How could affirmation motivate people to change?
  • What experiences have you had with affirmation (whether you have been affirmed or you have affirmed someone else)?

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Activity 2

Rosengren provides a few ideas on how to do affirmations (see Building Motivational Interviewing Skills: A Practitioner Workbook [2009], 62). Review the bullet points on page 62. Remember that the more authentic the affirmation, the more power it has to reinforce the leading indicators of work adjustment.

Individually, think of an associate you are working with.

  • How could you apply affirmation with him or her?

Record a few affirming sentences. Share with the rest of the group one of the affirmations you wrote.

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Activity 3

Rewrite the following statements of praise as statements of affirmation:

  • “I'm so proud of you for your decision to come to work today.”
  • “I'm pleased with you being on time to your shift.”
  • “I appreciate your willingness to accept my supervision.”
  • “I'm happy to see you're dressed and ready to work.”
  • “I feel you are ready to go get another job.”

Discuss as a group what you learned from the exercise.

Summaries

From the following list, choose and complete one or more activities that best apply to your situation.

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Activity 1

Throughout the Book of Mormon, the prophet Mormon enhances the book with summaries (for example, see Alma 24:19). Just as Mormon's summaries clarify messages in the Book of Mormon, a good summary used in a conversation with an associate can add focus to a conversation.

Read the following quote:

“Summaries are essentially reflections that pull together several things that a person has told you. They can also be affirming because they imply, 'I remember what you tell me and want to understand how it fits together.' Summaries also help clients to hold and reflect on the various experiences they have expressed. They not only hear themselves describing their experiences, but they also hear you reflect what they have said in a way that encourages them to continue” (William R. Miller and Stephen Rollnick, Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change, 66–67).

Discuss:

  • How could summarizing help you better understand associates with whom you work?
  • What experiences have you had using this tool?

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Activity 2

Read “Exercise 4.5. Building Summaries” (David B. Rosengren, Building Motivational Interviewing Skills: A Practitioner Workbook, 85). Then write a summary of what you understood from the client as if you were to summarize the conversation to the client. Share your summary with the rest of the group.

Finally, as a group, discuss what you have learned from doing this activity.

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Activity 3

Divide into pairs and practice using OARS with your partner. One of you will be an associate who is willing to discuss a change he or she is thinking of making. The other will play the job coach trainer, who should use OARS to motivate change. After five minutes, switch roles.

Ponder and Plan

“What Lack I Yet?”

Seek to identify a personal or business gap or need.

Spend a few minutes silently pondering what you've discussed during this lesson. Listen as the Holy Ghost helps you identify areas where you can improve. Record your impressions in your learner's journal under the question “What Lack I Yet?”

“What Must I Do?”

Seek ways to close the gap or develop the required talent(s) to meet the need.

With the guidance of the Spirit, create your plan of how you will improve and close the gap(s) you have identified. You may use one or more of the exercises below, your own strategy, or a combination of both. Record this plan in your learner's journal under “What Must I Do?”

  • Complete “Exercise 4.5: Building Summaries” (David B. Rosengren, Building Motivational Interviewing Skills: A Practitioner Workbook, 85).
  • Think of specific situations where you could have used these techniques. Record in your learner's journal what happened, what you could have done differently, and what you know to do next time.
  • Ponder the OARS method, seek guidance from the Spirit, and record in your learner's journal how you plan to use each component of the method to better your communication at work and in your personal life. Seek to apply specific examples for each of the four techniques in relation to specific relationships or associates.

After a few minutes, those who are comfortable doing so can share their impressions with the group.

“Therefore, What?”

Seek understanding, and then share what you learned.

During the week, focus on implementing the plan you created. Record your impressions or lessons learned in your learner's journal under “Therefore, What?” You will be given time at the beginning of next week's lesson to share your experience with the group.

"All of these behaviors take time to become habits. Some will come naturally; some will not. And sometimes we need a slight personality adjustment—not a dramatic adjustment (for example, trying to switch from being an introvert to an extrovert)—but everybody can develop better interpersonal skills, better communication skills, and a little more patience. . . . As you trust God and endeavor to develop these productive habits, He will help you, . . . and your work—and your life—will improve."

“Building Trust in Work Relationships,” Self-Reliance Services, lds.org